Forced marriages occur when one or both of the prospective spouses do not consent to the marriage but are coerced into it by their families or community, and they are illegal in the UK. Everyone has the right to make their own decision as to when and whom they want to marry.
It can be a very difficult and overwhelming if you Continue reading “I am being forced into a marriage. What can I do?”
Education is vital for any child. It provides you with the skill set needed for you to live your life as an independent and successful adult as you grow older.
In the UK, if you are under 16, you are legally required to attend school full-time until the end of the academic year when you turn 16. Continue reading “My parents don’t let me continue my education. What can I do?”
Many families, particularly within diaspora communities, implore children to behave in a way which is deemed socially and/or culturally acceptable, in order to preserve the family’s ‘honor’ (or izzat in some cultures). This concept of “honor” refers to a person’s and/or family’s righteousness in the eyes of their community. It is often utilized to ensure that people act in accordance with a certain code or set of rules. As such, if people follow what is considered socially good, they are honored; if not, they are shamed.
In order to uphold this ‘honor’, your family may prevent you from doing things they deem inappropriate, such as becoming involved with friends or a boyfriend or girlfriend from a different culture or religion, wearing certain clothes or makeup, taking part in activities that might not be considered traditional within a particular culture, or being of a certain sexuality. Continue reading “My family are controlling me? What can I do?”
I was delighted to attend the annual Day of Memory this month, remembering those lost to so-called ‘honour killings’. Of course it was Shafilea Ahmed who inspired the event, murdered 14 years ago by her own parents for becoming ‘too westernised’ in the UK.
A day to raise national awareness. Here it goes…
As I made my way from the train station, I Continue reading “Fozia, Survivor of Forced Marriage reflects on the Day of Memory conference.”
Karma Nirvana held its third Day of Memory to remember those who have been killed in the name of so called ‘honour’. The event took place in Leeds at the magnificent Civic Hall.
Travelling up from London for this event was an honour for me, an honour in its truest sense. Not the misguided notion of honour that meant females, males and also non-binary people were murdered by so called family members who were supposed to love and cherish them.
There were events to commemorate the Day of Memory all over the UK, I imagined all the gatherings and how they could be, some with flowers, Continue reading “Asma, Survivor of Honour Based Abuse reflects on Karma Nirvana’s Day of Memory conference.”
Waking up to the third annual Day of Memory, I was very excited that this year it was being held in West Yorkshire – my home county. Feeling very proud that the authorities I grew up with who didn’t know about forced marriage and honour based abuse, were now united with Karma Nirvana in a mission to end it. Continue reading “Zee, Survivor of Forced Marriage reflects on Karma Nirvana’s Day of Memory Conference.”
I’ve given great thought as to how I might introduce myself to you. What would be most appropriate I asked myself – what should I be saying? A great woman once encouraged me to always start as you mean to go on, and with that in mind, today I open a window into my life.
I will write openly and honestly about the issues Continue reading “Fozia, Survivor Ambassador Programme.”